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Happy New Year

So, what about your New Year’s resolutions? About 40% of us resolve to do (or stop doing) something in the new year: save money, get organized, lose weight, quit smoking or some other bad habit, get in shape. (Local gyms are swamped for a few weeks every January.) Resolutions are great, but we all know that most don’t last. In fact, research says that 88% of us will give up on our New Year’s resolutions by the second Friday in January. This year, “Quitter’s Day” will be January 10. Yes, “Quitter’s Day” really is a thing. The reasons we quit are many. Some of us aim too high and set unrealistic goals. Some of us let others drag us down. Some of us simply don’t feel an urgency about our resolution. In other words, it just isn’t worth what reaching our goal will require: the time, effort, expense and so on. At the end of the day, the chances of you sticking to your resolutions depend most on how much reaching your goals matters to you. 
You have to ask yourself, “How much is it worth to me?”
Some New Year’s resolutions are more pressing than others, and more worthwhile.
How about resolving to improve your marriage? 
How much is that worth to you?

A Truly Worthwhile Resolution

What more worthwhile goal could any of us set, given what we know about the value of healthy intimate relationships? Indeed, few things could be more important or better for us. We know that people in healthy relationships generally enjoy better emotional and physical health, tend to live longer, suffer less anxiety and depression, less addiction and, when they do get sick, tend to heal faster. They tend to enjoy more stable relationships across the board. They tend to advance further in their careers and make more money over the course of a lifetime. They even tend to enjoy more and better sex. 

In short, a healthy love relationship pays off in all kinds of ways. It’s a goal well worth pursuing and prioritizing. 

And it’s a great New Year’s resolution. 

A Resolution That Lasts

But, how can we help you survive “Quitter’s Day?” How can we ensure that this New Year’s resolution lasts much longer than two weeks?

That’s where a Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreat comes in. Hold Me Tight®️ is a two day couples workshop with the best track record in the business. It’s based on attachment science and the tenets of Emotionally Focused Therapy. But, Hold Me Tight®️ is not therapy. It’s a low key group experience where couples learn to connect more deeply than ever before—and do it safely and without pressure. No one is put on the spot. Couples go at their own pace.


And, after decades of Hold Me Tight®️ success the world over, 70% of couples who attend not only report excellent results, they say that they are still doing well two years afterward. (That’s two years…not two weeks!) 


If any goal is truly worthwhile, improving your love relationship is surely at the top of the list! And the best part of all that is that our next Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreat is next month. It’s the perfect New Year’s resolution. Get in now on something that can truly bring lasting change to the most important relationship in your life. 

Sign up today. Space is limited. 



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