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When You Get Stuck, Get Help

I had a close call today. I was almost duped by a very slick hacker. He posed as a security guy from PayPal and I nearly gave him remote access to my computer. (I know, that sounds pretty stupid on my part.) Fortunately for me, when things smelled fishy, I tapped out before any real damage was done. But, I didn’t know what to do from there. I unplugged my PC and called an expert. He knew just what to do and he got me up and running in no time. What a relief! It cost me a few bucks, but most likely saved me a lot more.

Computers are a necessary evil in my life. I can’t even imagine managing my home or my business without one. But, they can sure be troublesome. And a cyber wizard, I am not. That’s my problem. I know just enough to be dangerous. It sure eases my mind that help is available when I need it. Because some things I can’t fix. That doesn’t make me stupid…it’s just not my expertise.

Relationship Need Repair Too

Relationships are the same way for a lot of folks. Most of us can't imagine not being in one. We are wired to connect with others, deeply, intimately. We need relationships even more than we need computers. Love is something we all crave. But, love can bring such problems, so much pain if we don’t understand how it works and what we need. And too many of us just struggle on our own when things go wrong. We don’t know what to do.

If your relationship is confusing, painful or even feels hopeless, I have good news: help is nearby. I know it for a fact. How do I know? I’m not a computer guy, but I am a relationship guy. That’s what I do and I know that relationships do make sense. Solutions are out there and you don’t have to struggle with it all on your own.

Get Help at Hold Me Tight

That’s what couples learn at a Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreat. Hold Me Tight®️ is a two day workshop that helps couples understand their relationship in ways that they never did. Wouldn’t you love to understand what’s really going on when you and your partner get stuck in those same old patterns of conflict and discord? Wouldn’t you love to know how to feel safe again with the one you love most? You don’t have to just keep doing the same things and hoping for different results. Help is close by.

Hold Me Tight®️ is a safe, low key group experience. It isn’t therapy. In fact, many couples say they learn and accomplish more in just two days of Hold Me Tight®️ than in months of therapy. You and your partner will learn and even practice in real time the conversations you never knew you could have. No one is put on the spot. Couples go at their own pace. And you find that you are not that different from other couples.

Don't Stay Stuck

Sometimes, computers get viruses. So do relationships. They slow down, make you feel stuck. They stop working like they’re supposed to and you feel like just throwing the whole thing out the window. The good news is that you don’t have to fix it all by yourself. Let experts help you learn from attachment science and the time tested lessons of EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy). Trust me, you’ll be glad you did. Help is just around the corner. Our next Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreat is just a few weeks away. All the details are on this website. But space is limited.

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If you’re a sports fan (specifically, football) this is your favorite time of year. The NFL playoffs showcase the best of the best and even for the non-fanatics out there, some important truths are evident. Football, like many other sports, is a team game. For sure, individual superstars shine, but only because those around them pull together for a common goal. The best teams operate as one. Eleven players, all on the same page: focused, supportive, picking each other up, pursuing the same goal. When they do, they become more than the sum of their parts…highly efficient. They minimize mistakes and overcome them when they happen. When adversity hits, lesser teams slip into fault finding, sniping and looking out for number one. In any sport, if teammates ever become opponents, they can’t win. It’s game over.

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You might remember the cruise ship Costa Concordia that foundered off the coast of Italy in 2012 after her captain carelessly steered her too close to shore. Rocks tore a 175 foot gash in her hull and the ship listed severely to her starboard side, taking on water and running aground. Ultimately, 32 people died and the recovery cost about $2 billion. Perhaps the greatest blunder though, was that the captain waited over an hour to give the order to abandon ship. For such negligence, he was ultimately convicted of manslaughter and sentenced to 15 years. Indeed, he left the ship with 300 passengers still on board! (He said he “fell” into a lifeboat as it was being lowered.)

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By Mark Beck • January 10, 2025

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When You Hit Turbulence

By Mark Beck • December 16, 2024

Now and then, I travel by air. I enjoy it, for the most part. But, on one trip, seemingly out of nowhere, the plane hit heavy turbulence. Suddenly, the cabin was shuttering and shaking. I looked outside; the wings were visibly bouncing up and down as the plane lurched and pitched. I tried to hide my fear, but (pardon the pun) it really shook me up. My stomach tightened; my breathing got shallow. I couldn’t think straight. Having such little experience with something like that, I feared we would crash. But, then, I noticed the flight attendants. They were cool as the backside of a pillow…no panic or alarm. I wondered how they could be so calm. Soon the pilot came over the intercom and in a steady, measured voice, explained that turbulence is normal, the plane was built for much, much worse and it would all subside in a few moments. The crew had been through this many times. They understood what was happening and what to do. I was so glad that somebody did! Their calm was contagious. Gradually, I was able to relax and realized that it wasn’t the crisis I had feared it was. That was a game changer. I got through it and now, turbulence isn’t the problem it used to be for me when I fly. It still happens, but I know what it’s about when it does and that gets me through. .

In Person Or Online?

By Mark Beck • December 2, 2024

Vicki and I will start something new in March of 2025. We have been leading in person Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreats at least four times a year for six years now. No two are the same; we always see amazing results and we get more than we give every time. And, in addition to our in person workshops, we’ll also begin offering online Hold Me Tight®️ workshops next year. In person and online workshops are definitely different. Each format has its own advantages. So, what’s different about the two and what is the same and which might be best for you? I’m glad you asked.

What About Love Languages?

By Mark Beck • November 19, 2024

Dr. Gary Chapman’s “The Five Love Languages” is one of the most popular and prolific couples self-help books in history. Since its initial release in 1992, through several revisions, it has sold over 20 million copies. That’s one popular book! Perhaps you’ve read it. If not, it’s worth your time. Chapman basically contends that romantic love shows up in five ways. He calls them “languages.” In no particular order, they are: personal touch, words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service and giving gifts. The idea is that all of us have a top one or two love languages and that couples can and should know, not only their own love language, but more so, their partner’s. And the more you and your partner speak one another’s language, the more love you’ll both share.